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One Thing Everyone Gets Wrong About Being a Sensitive Striver
Do you ever feel like a chameleon?
Like you spend your life trying to blend in, hiding your needs, your feelings, and your true personality?
By the time I finished college and grad school, I was the Queen Chameleon.
Growing up it became clear that I didn’t approach the world in the same way as everyone else. I was more deeply affected by everything happening both within and around me.
As a result, I thought there was something wrong with me, that my sensitive nature made me defective somehow. Negative comments from others (“stop taking everything so personally,” “grow a thicker skin,” etc.) only amplified my insecurities.
I always felt out of place and so I learned to let people see only the parts of me that I thought were acceptable. The rest I camouflaged the best I could.
That’s my story. But it isn’t unique to me.
I’ve coached countless high-achievers over the years that have felt compelled to take the chameleon approach because they felt they were “too much”. They, too, have hid parts of themselves in a desperate attempt to fit in and be liked.
But here’s the thing: