The “Drama Triangle” May Be Wreaking Havoc On Your Life

Here’s how to end the cycle.

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Are you caught in the Drama Triangle?

Conflict is a necessary and unavoidable part of any relationship. But you may feel like some problems or dynamics seem intractable. That is, no matter what the issue, you and your co-worker, boss, family member, or friend, seem to fall into the same patterns again and again.

It can be frustrating — and tiring — to be trapped in this cycle. It’s important to realize that you’re not cursed, weak, or doomed to dysfunctional relationships forever. You’re simply caught in the Drama Triangle.

What is the Drama Triangle?

The drama triangle is a model of human behavior first described by psychologist Stephen Karpman in the late 1908s. It explains the unconscious, counterproductive roles people typically take on (and switch between) in stressful, high-conflict situations.

The drama triangle is possible in any relationship, whether at work, at home, or in friendships. They are more common in close relationships including those with romantic partners, family, and co-workers. The behaviors may play out in extreme or subtle ways. When you’re caught in this toxic dynamic, you end up with unnecessary aggravation and it drains your…