The Trust Yourself 10 Day Challenge: Day 3

Turn your innate sensitivity into a strength

Melody Wilding, LMSW


You made it to Day 3 of the Trust Yourself Challenge!

Click here to catch up on Day 1 and Day 2.

Now that you have your Wheel of Balance completed, you should have a better idea of which of your STRIVE qualities are most in balance versus out of balance.

Today we begin the journey of helping you take steps to recalibrate by tackling the first STRIVE quality:


Before you think “I already knew I was sensitive!”, it’s important to realize that the STRIVE quality of Sensitivity is different.

Specifically, it refers to sensory sensitivity. That is, having a highly attuned nervous system that is easily overwhelmed and overstimulated.

When your Sensitivity is unbalanced you may be:

❌ Anxious, amped up, and fearful most of the time

❌ Slow to relax

❌ Often in a state of stress and tension

But when your Sensitivity is well balanced you’re able to:

✔️ Be calm and composed, even under pressure

✔️ Get enough rest and downtime

✔️ Use intuition as a tool for better decision making

To show you what I’m talking about, let me tell you the story of my client, Kate.

Kate was just starting a new role with greater responsibility and visibility — which meant more meetings. And she dreaded meetings, especially those with senior leaders.

Kate never felt comfortable speaking up. There was so much for her to process mentally and emotionally. The fear of sounding stupid only overwhelmed her more. Kate would freeze or launch into a nervous tailspin when she had to speak up.

Kate used many of the tools in my new book TRUST YOURSELF to lower her overstimulation and stay calm in high-pressure situations.

With newfound confidence, Kate eventually led a company-wide all-hands meeting and received a lot of positive feedback. More importantly, She felt more secure and emotionally balanced at work — something she…



Melody Wilding, LMSW

Author of TRUST YOURSELF. Executive coach to Sensitive Strivers. Human behavior professor. Featured in NYT, NBC, CNN.